After Absalom’s rebellion was quashed and Absalom was killed, David went into deep mourning for his rebellious son, but neglected his duties as king to reunite his nation. He didn’t immediately return to Jerusalem. Things were coming unglued as he continued to be absorbed in his grief. Therefore Joab, David’s chief of staff and military commander, stepped in to rouse his king to get back to being the nation’s leader.
A leader must prayer for strength when events tempt one to self pity and despair.
2 Samuel 19:1-7
19 Joab was told that the king was crying and mourning Absalom. 2 So the victory that day was turned into mourning for all the troops because they heard that day that the king was grieving for his son. 3 So that day the troops crept back into the city like soldiers creep back ashamed after they’ve fled from battle. 4 The king covered his face and cried out in a loud voice, “Oh, my son Absalom! Oh, Absalom, my son! My son!”
5 Joab came to the king inside and said, “Today you have humiliated all your servants who have saved your life today, not to mention the lives of your sons, your daughters, your wives, and your secondary wives, 6 by loving those who hate you and hating those who love you! Today you have announced that the commanders and their soldiers are nothing to you, because I know that if Absalom were alive today and the rest of us dead, that would be perfectly fine with you! 7 Now get up! Go out and encourage your followers! I swear to the Lord that if you don’t go out there, not one man will stick with you tonight—and that will be more trouble for you than all the trouble that you’ve faced from your youth until now.”